Mwwuaah!! Can You French Kiss?

Did you ever see that episode of Golden Girls where Rose meets this guy who she doesn't remember from many years ago and finally at the end of the episode, he kisses her and she finally remembers where she knew him from. After he leaves, Blanche thought it was sweet that a kiss unlocked Rose's memory, to which she said, "Nobody can forget a kiss like that. He didn't know how to kiss then and he doesn't know how to kiss now."

The truth is, not everybody is a natural kisser. Some people, unfortunately, are just flat out awful at it. And it's sad because it really doesn't have to be that way. Kissing is not just in the technique but in the approach as well. How you go about giving the kiss is almost as important as the kiss itself.

First thing you have to do is relax. You can't kiss well if you're tense. There is a difference between being excited from the anticipation of the kiss and being nervous about it. If you're not relaxed, you're not going to kiss well. Your lips will tighten, your face will tighten, and the results are going to be less than good.

Next thing you want to do is take your time. As I said, the anticipation is a great part of the experience. The longer you take (no, you don't want to drag it out into a marathon warm-up) the more excited your partner is going to become in anticipation as well. This does a lot to overcome a lot of flaws in the actual kiss itself. True, you don't have to be a master tactician if you build up enough anticipation.

Finally, when you kiss your partner, you don't want to jam your face into him or her. You want to be gentle. Forget about those manhandling kisses that you see in the movies. The only thing they're good for is breaking your partner's neck. You want to be gentle about the whole thing. This will bring about the best results.

It's true, not everybody knows how to kiss. You'd think it would be a natural thing, but it's not. Nerves play a bigger role in the problem than just about anything else. So once you learn to relax, trust me, the rest will come quite naturally.

Author: Darin Morris